What Everyone Expect Me To Do?

When I follow rules or follow instructions, people will tell/asked me :
"Chill out."
"Why must you follow the rules?"
"Why are you following the rules? Can't you follow yourself?"
"Loosen up."
etc.

When I don't follow the rules/instructions 100% or I follow my instinct, people will tell/asked me:
"You must follow the rules!"
"You must be strict!"
"Instructions are there to be followed!"
etc.

What can I do? What Should I do? I am standing in the middle of "Follow rules/instruction" and "Follow instinct". No one will listen to what I want to say. No one will even care if I follow instructions or not. They sure hell don't even care if I have feelings either.